Relationship Tips: Introduction

I do not taut myself as an expert, and what works for me does not work for everyone. I have no counseling background, my experiences are limited to what I have done or what I have observed. I am recently married (2 months) to a man who I have been with for the past 7 years. We are happy, but  we also continue working on our relationship to help improve it. I have a close friend who I was talking to about relationships, and she continued to tell me that I should write what I think down, because although to me it is obvious it is not to others. So here goes....

In my mind, the first thing you should ask yourself about the relationship you are in is.... Is it the right one?

That question is not as simple as it appears, but also includes the subsidiary questions of:

• What have I invested in this relationship (time, money, belongings, marriage, pets, children,)?
• Is this relationship healthy (this is more of a pro/con idea is what I am gaining worth what I need to put in/ is the person I am with treating me as someone to be respected and cared for)? 
• Do I believe it is worth preserving?
• Am I willing to put in the effort it takes to try to make this work?

I am aware these are all I questions, but as a relationship is a bond created between two people you need to see where you stand first, before you can ask the same of another person.

In upcoming posts I will be writing about, Getting Concrete, Holding High Expectations, Letting Go, Being Honest, Being Vulnerable, Creating Safety, Opening Channels of Communication, Rekindling the Spark, Helping a Significant Other Through Times of Challenge, etc.

If there is any topic you want me to address in particular or if you have a question, please leave a comment.